@ivo Good morning,
This morning I read your post and as a high functioning ADHD non A-typical human being, can relate to everything you have written.
I've recently given up a 25+ year IT career however I have VERY strong skillsets across enterprise infrastructure and have been recognised as a key technical lead across the UK and Europe.
I'm unable to donate presently however would like to better understand your design and infrastructure as it stands, as I may have some ideas for improvement and modification if wanted and desired.
Let me know if I may be of assistance.
Kind regards, keep it safe or dont get caught!!